1) Facebook Pimpin’: I used to be painfully shy and shy as in, I’m afraid to date shy. So the internet became a point of power for me. When I found out that I could create a profile and hook up with whoever I wanted I cartwheeled internally. It also left me vulnerable so I would mistake an inbox message or compliment online as something serious. It’s embarrassing to admit that, but it happens. All some dudes need are a few PX90 photos and a few deep status updates and he’s money. Don’t let that be your door to relationship drama. Nothing beats in person interaction; you get to know a person without Instagram photo glam and internet facades.
2) A Walk Down Memory Lane: Remember the dude who couldn’t make up his mind and needed space? The one who wasn’t able to tell you that he wasn’t into you aka that he wanted to “taste another dish”? Well he will say anything for a second helping even when his intentions are to repeat the same pattern. He knows that you will see his temporary “awakening” as a sign that he REALLY cares, so he will lay on the lines, start to do all the things you wanted him to do months ago until BAM he gets back in. Is this a walk down memory lane necessary? Were you fine before he sauntered back in? Most likely yes, so keep it brief and continue on.
3) Pen Pals: I don’t knock all long distance relationships, but if you have no history together and all of a sudden he’s in “love” and hits you up every day because you have this “connection” that he can’t explain. Pen pals are schedule fillers but I’m convinced there is something more productive and exciting you can do with this idle time. Pen pals are men/women who make regular contact electronically but rarely follow up with in person visits. They seem like the perfect partner because they are far and electronically we can pretty much create perfect people. When you have in person contact with anyone – THAT is when s*it gets real. I want you to print this article out and highlight that last line if this is something you go through often. It’s not LEGIT until a consistent in-person relationship is formed.
