RESEARCHERS SAY MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS STILL ACT LIKE THEY'RE ON THE MARKET: British researchers say they've found that men in committed relationships still act like they're on the market. To find this, researchers administered on online survey to 341 people about the maintenance, role and value of their best friends and romantic partners. They found that women saw romantic relationships as partnerships involving equal input from both parties with shared goals and beliefs, while men admitted to keeping close friends and their romantic partners at arm's length. Women usually scored their partner consistently higher than themselves. One researcher said, "Our research shows that successful relationships are much more essential to women's well-being than men's. Men seem to keep their relationships at arm's length with one eye on the dating market." (UPI)

Yooooo!!!! We're just seeing if we still have it, so we can come home and give it to you. 

1. You want to argue about everything all of the time.

Some women are addicted to drama. They don't know how to function in situations where no one is yelling or throwing someone's clothes out the window. I've said this before, but there's a lot of healthy relationship stuff between getting freaky and fighting. Save the drama for the Melanie Fiona videos. As I get older one of the most surprising things I've learned is that the best relationship I've ever had has been the most boring. By boring I mean I'm not checking his phone for text messages because there's nothing to check for. He doesn't do Facebook and our biggest arguments are over breakfast cereal. Our best moments are spent watching Netflix and talking smack about the drama in our friends' relationships.

• Arguing about the girl winking at him in the drive through or the fact that he didn't answer his phone for two hours is not only immature and insecure, it's exhausting. No one wants to deal with someone who is allergic to being happy.

2. You compare your relationship to everyone else's.

I was guilty of this for a long time. I knew what I signed up for when I started dating the boyfriend. He wasn't the "dozen roses for no reason" type and I fell in love with him anyway. He had 1000 other great qualities that I decided mattered more than flowers, candy all that stuff most people think love is about. Still, whenever a friend called to brag about romantic walks on the beach or posted a pic of breakfast in bed from their "hubby" I found myself doubting my relationship. Eventually I got my flowers and a good lesson that every relationship grows in its own time.

• First off, the internet is good for highlighting the parts of life and love people WANT you to know about. No one's running to post about the child "hubby" made with some other chick. Second, you have to learn to appreciate what's special about YOUR relationship. Whether it's Tamar and Vince or Cousin Peaches and Ray Ray from around the corner, stop obsessing about every else's green lawn and focus on watering your own damn grass.

3. Your man makes or breaks your life.

There has to be more to you than finding or getting a man. We all have that friend that every five seconds is texting or calling her "Bae" or gets ghost on Twitter until there's some update like "Bae brought home shrimp for dinner. I <3 my Bae!" So what is it exactly that YOU do? I worry about men who want their woman's whole world to revolve around them, but I worry more about women who allow it. Most good men want a woman who's bringing more to the table than free time for him and a vast knowledge of the lives on Real Housewives of Atlanta. You don't have to choose between having a man and having a life.

4. You give your friends and followers the play by play of your relationship.

Death to the screen grab. Now not only do we have to hear about your relationship drama, we get to read it ridden with bad grammar. No man wants to worry that his every thought or emotion about you will be shared with the world. And honestly most of the world doesn't care. PDA is one thing, a play-by-play of the ups and downs of your relationship is a red flag that you need attention, a therapist or both.

5. You're doing the most, too early.

If you are planning shopping trips with his mom and buying scented candles for his crib and you met him two weeks ago you are officially doing the most. It sends the message that you're desperate, crazy or easy. No man wants to feel like you're doing for him what you do for every guy you meet or that he's being forced into boyfriend responsibilities that he's not ready for. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want, but sometimes you have to allow yourself to be pursued. Just because you've got butterflies and you want to pop up at his job and surprise him for lunch, doesn't mean you should. You can't rush the comfort that comes with being in a relationship for some time. Certain perks in a relationship have to be earned, otherwise don't try to play martyr talking about how "used and abused" you always are when you constantly give too much too soon.

6. You walk around with the "stank" face all the time.

Would you want to approach a man who looks like he's ready to swing on someone all the time? I hate when strangers tell me to "smile." The mean mug on the subway is necessary for survival sometimes in Philly, but you don't have to always look like you hate life. Especially if you're sitting at the bar on a Saturday with an attitude. It's like, "WTH did you come out for?" If you stay walking around with your eyebrows high looking like you smell trash juice it's no wonder men don't approach you.

7. You stay updated on Beyonce's life just to talk about how much you hate her.

Beyonce', Rihanna, Kim K....there are certain names that black men can utter to instantly piss off insecure women. Notice I wrote "insecure." I'm not saying you have to keep up with the Kardashians or even like them at all. But there is no reason women should be investing so much hate and energy into women they don't even know. I get it: They're rich and beautiful, and the media thinks if they talk about them enough they can make us like them. But there is no reason why if a man mentions how Kanye is a lucky man you should be catching feelings and a whole attitude. It's not that deep.

8. Your arguments always end with a 911 call.

This brings us back to the drama. Granted I teach a lot of young females with unhealthy ideas about relationships, but it never ceases to amaze me how often arguments between them and their boyfriends end with someone catching a case. Responsible, mature adults don't resort to kicking in doors, busting windows and physical abuse to get their point across or rectify their relationship problems. What's even worse is that more and more it's the females who are the first to take it there. Domestic violence is not attractive. If you have trouble controlling your temper, ditch the person that brings out the worse in you or find healthier ways to manage your stress.

9. He's managed to have decent relationships before and after you.

It may be hard to believe but there are exes who get along and recognize that just because that person wasn't good for them doesn't mean they aren't a good person. I always say just because he treated the last girl like....dog droppings doesn't mean he won't treat you like a daffodil. But if you are the only girlfriend he's ever had running around talking about what a jerk he is, the truth may be he was only a jerk to you. And that may not be your fault, some people just shouldn't date...ever. But if you find yourself in this situation a lot, it's time to get honest about the part you play in the problem.

10. You're dating the same guy over and over.

If you are having the same man problems over and over, it's probably because you're choosing the same man, at least figuratively. If you keep choosing the guy who is in the club every single weekend, you can't wonder why he always wants to go out and never spend time with you. If you keep going for "thugs" with swag, who smoke weed everyday and wait for their Social Security check, you can't be confused about why you can't find someone motivated with goals. Stop being comfortable and try checking for someone who isn't exactly your type. You might find the best thing you never knew you needed.

"""""Hi Chris, I’m at a real cross road in my relationship. My boyfriend has been awesome to me and my daughter (He’s not the father) for the last year, almost 2. We have had issues like most, but we have overcome them all. He is my best friend, and I have been this deeply in love since, well actually never. Recently he has been distant out of no where and it had been like this for about 2 weeks straight. I asked him this last time, and finally he told me. He admits that he jumped into a serious relationship too fast and realizes that now, after we've both loved each other. He says he wants his ex back, but I believe he is so confused by his feelings just because he misses her and doesn’t realize he is making the wrong choice, and I am so hurt. I feel like I have to at least try to talk to him and tell him that he’s making a mistake and that I would do anything for him. I want to convince him that he’s got to keep trying to move on and that I know it’s not easy, but it will get better. He thinks his feelings for her are never going to go away. He said he feels he loves both of us the same, and that his heart is just in 2 places at the same time. Now he doesn’t know what to do, how can I convince him to stay?"""'""

Real talk, this is not as uncommon as we would like to believe. Respond to the letter as you will, but here's my question: Can you be in love with more than one person and it be genuine love? Can it it be that your has the capacity to be divided and still true? #GoIn

THE BIGGEST BEDROOM MISTAKES COUPLES MAKE

Here are 14 of the biggest bedroom mistakes couple make -- via Madamenoire.com.

Not trying new things

• Many couples fall victim of finding things they like in the bedroom and doing nothing more and nothing less. After months of doing the same things in the bedroom, it's all but certain that your sex life will go downhill. In order for your bedroom life to stay fun and exciting, it's important to incorporate new things into the mix. Doing the same things over and over is bound to create a monotonous sex life.

Having a routine

• Every night at 7PM you and your man are going at it, and while this works for you two, having a routine takes a lot out of your sex life. When it comes to the bedroom, it's best to keep your partner guessing and to keep things a bit of a mystery. There is absolutely no excitement in knowing exactly when you'll be doing the deed. Mix things up a bit and surprise your partner when he/she least expects it.

De-valuing the act

• Sex is only as valuable and meaningful as you make it. Though plenty of other things matter a lot more than sex in a relationship, it should still have priority and meaning to you. If you're having sex just to appeal to your partner or just get it out of the way, it's clear that it's not something you value. Meaningful sex, filled with emotion and raw appeal is going to be what makes your relationship that much better.

Not talking about it

• You've heard it ever since you were little, but being honest goes a long way, especially when it comes to the bedroom. If you're unhappy with something your partner does or if you want to try something new, don't hold it back. There's nothing worse than lying and pretending that everything is okay when it isn't. Though it's a sensitive topic, you'll want to talk about any problems before they have the chance to make a huge impact on your relationship.

Making excuses

• Sometimes you just don't want to have sex, and that's fine. But when you're making daily excuse after daily excuse, there's bound to be a problem brewing. There's going to be days when you're too tired or when he's too stressed to really put the necessary effort and energy into having quality sex. However, don't let excuses become the norm. Find ways to make sure that you're having bedroom time as often as possible, even if you do have a headache.

Faking it

• Though women are more often accused of faking it, men can fake it as well. Faking it on a very rare occasion is okay, but don't let faking it become a common act in the bedroom. Otherwise, you're sending your partner mixed signals and making him/her think that you're enjoying sex when you really aren't. If faking it becomes a common thing, get to the bottom of it ASAP.

Not listening

• Just like in a relationship, communication and good listening skills are key for a healthy and happy sex life. If your partner expresses things he/she likes or doesn't like, you'll want to make note of them. Doing things your partner doesn't like it sure to be a turn off, and if you continue, you may be doing more turning off than you are turning on. Listen to each other when it comes to likes and dislikes in the bedroom.

Feeling pressured

• Usually in the beginning stages of a relationship, sex can be full of worry and pressure. You of course want to please your partner and you want things to be perfect. All of this combined creates a lot of stress and pressure, but over time these feelings usually wear off. If you're still feeling a lot of stress and pressure when it comes to sex, be sure to talk about it with your significant other.

Being passive all the time

• Sex should be give and take, meaning that it shouldn't be a one-sided act. It's important that both of you take an active role in your sex life. This means that you both should initiate sex and you should both be open to new things. Don't become a passive partner that makes absolutely no contributions to keeping your sex life alive and well.

Not caring about your physical appearance

• Sex isn't very good when your partner isn't sexually attracted to you. A lot of people get comfortable in a relationship and let themselves slip. While gaining a few pounds isn't going to break the relationship, letting yourself go completely may negatively impact your sex life. If this becomes an issue, try exercising or eating healthier as a couple.

Not enough 4play

• A lot of couples tend to skimp out on 4play, even though it's what really sets the stage for what's to come. Instead of jumping right into things, tease each other and really get yourselves into the mood. 4play allows you two to be a bit playful and flirty, which really sets the stage for a lot of fun later on.

The bedroom has become "the" room

• Statistics have showed that couples who watch T.V. and hang out in their room often are less likely to have sex. Don't let your bedroom become the place where you watch movies, eat dinners, and hang out on the daily. Instead, save your bedroom as a place to do the dirty, and of course, sleep. If you're set on watching T.V. in the bedroom, limit how much and how often you watch.

Not enough rawness

• Having romantic sex is nice, right? There is nothing wrong with "making love" but when that is all you do, you may start to get a little bored. Sometimes it's nice to be a little bit raw. While you don't want to make your partner feel like he/she is just a piece of meat, it's a nice change to sometimes just go at it and leave romance at the door. Make sexual comments and bring a little bit of raw passion into things.

Avoiding it altogether

• No relationship will last very long if sex becomes completely nonexistent. Physicality is crucial in a happy relationship and if you completely get rid of sex, expect major problems. When you notice a decline of physicality in your relationship, don't hesitate to point out the problem and work to fix it. Otherwise you're marching down the wrong road.

CLICK HERE TO SEE IF SOME OF YOUR FAVORITE ARTIST MADE THE LIST...

http://bossip.com/744939/truth-hurts-top-10-most-overrated-artists-2/

 CHECK OUT THE APPROACHES FROM SOME MOTHERS. CAN WE LEARN FROM THEM?

Don't Pretend You Were Perfect

• "It's about providing honest examples of your personal decision making at their age, talking 'their language' and not sugar coating anything. Explain that there is more to giving up your virginity than the possibility of getting pregnant. Discuss that there are diseases and their innocence, because at the end of the day, the game changes once you have sex. Tell your daughter you want her to have respect for herself as a young lady and to demand respect from the young man too." -- Rosita

Encourage Openness

• "I teach my kids first about open communication explaining to them that they can talk to me about anything. I may not agree with their choice but as a parent it is up to me that they are told and/or taught correctly." - Shoshana

Be Direct

• "As a parent I have to be realistic about what my teen is facing (peer pressure, media, music and hormones!). I talk with her about abstaining and that her body is special. However, I want to ensure that she has facts. I have been (age-appropriately) honest with her from a young age. She knows that she can come to me with questions and that we'll dialogue about it. Often, when I learn something I go directly to her, versus waiting for her to start a conversation. I want my teen to make smart, informed decisions regarding her sexuality." -Aesha

Bring Up Abstinence

• "Just keep an open line of honest communication on abstinence and all forms of protection, the emotional responsibilities that come with having sex as a teenager and the consequences of failed birth control and STD protection. Lots of prayer..." -Michelle

Tell the Boys How Special They Are Too

• "I have two teen boys and honesty is everything. I'm teaching them that what you have and who you are is very special and only that special person is worthy of it. I tell them abstinence is the best, but if you do have sex please always protect yourself, because there are consequences with every act. So, if you're not ready, please wait. We need to teach our young men that their bodies are special just like the girls, after all they are the seed carriers." -Jameka

Be a Friend and a Parent and Get Visual

• "I tell them that sex can be a beautiful thing when you're with the right person. That I would prefer for them to wait until they are married and that peer pressure will come eventually, but if they ever decide that sex is something they want to do before marriage, they should come talk to me so we can go over all the pros and cons again and make sure they are prepared for what sex brings. They know that when a girl hits puberty she can then have children if she's having sex. I've also pulled up pictures of STDs on the Internet and signed them up for sexual education in school." -Serenity

Stress Responsibility

• "I continue to teach my kids about responsibility. They are 18 and 20 and If they do choose to have sex, to make sure they are responsible for protecting themselves always and not to depend on anyone else to do that for them. I urged them to be smart about who they choose, understanding as much as possible that sex with anyone is a big deal and if handled inappropriately it can cause big problems for the rest of their lives. I say continue because I started to talk to my kids about sex when they were 8 and 10 years old and never stopped. Thank God, at 18 and 20 they feel comfortable enough to now talk to me!" -Karma

Look man, holla at your daughters, or she will probably learn some hard lessons. Some that there may be no return from... 

• MARTIN's FAMILY SETTLES WRONGFUL DEATH SUIT: According to The AP, the family of Trayvon Martin -- the teen that was killed by George Zimmerman last year, has reached a settlement with the housing subdivision in Sanford, FL where he was killed. The family has reportedly settled the suit for more than $1 million with the homeowners association. The family plans to file suit against Zimmerman as well. Zimmerman is still facing criminal charges, and the trial is set to begin in July.