Ahight here we go, last one for a couple of weeks as I get ready for vacation. Check it out below:

'''''''Hi Mr Michaels, I have been married for lil over a year now, his mother visits us once a year around Mother's day for 1-3 months, my husband's relation with her realy stresses me. When they are together its like he is a 12 year old again, who cant make a single decision without his mommy...and he would not do anything without her around. its like i come second, when she is not with us he calls her every day, and tells her every sigle detail of our lifes. sometimes I do feel guilty and selfish, I feel like I am the one coming between the perfect mother and son relation. but he is 30 years old, shouldn't he be over his mommy yet?? I realy cant talk to him about this but neither can i take it anymore. I did consider leaving him, but i love him too much, he is perfect except just this one thing, I don't know if this weekend we celebrated Mother's day or mama's boy in the worst way day, what can i do, i need help???"""""

HAAAAAAA!!!!!!! @ "mama's boy in the worst way day"
How do you determine a mama's boy, vs. a man who just loves his mother? Don't you ladies judge a man's ability to love you well, based on how he treats his mom? What's going overboard with loving his mom? If you ever had a mama's boy how has impacted your relationship? #GoIn

Justin Timberlakewill hit the road this fall to kick off The 20/20 Experience World Tour. The tour kicks off on Halloween at the Bell Centre in Montreal. The tour will continue through 2014. More dates are reportedly scheduled to be announced.

• Timberlake is expected to release the follow-up to The 20/20 Experience on September 30.

20/20 Experience Tour: (dates subject to change)

• Oct. 31 - Montreal, QC (Bell Centre)
• Nov. 13 - Raleigh, NC (PNC Arena)
• Nov. 15 - Nashville, TN (Bridgestone Arena)
• Nov. 16 - Columbus, OH (Nationwide Arena)
• Nov. 18 - Memphis TN (Fedex Forum)
• Nov. 19 - St. Louis, MO (Scottrade Center)
• Nov. 29 - Las Vegas, NV (MGM Grand Garden Arena)
• Dec. 2 - Phoenix, AZ (US Airways Center)
• Dec. 4 - Dallas, TX (American Airlines Center)
• Dec. 5 - Houston, TX (Toyota Center)
• Dec. 11 - Indianapolis, IN (Bankers Life Fieldhouse)
• Dec. 12 - Cleveland, OH ( Quicken Loans Arena)
• Dec. 14 - Pittsburgh, PA (Consol Energy Arena)
• Dec. 15 - Louisville, KY (KFC Yum! Center)
• Dec. 17 - Atlanta, GA (Philips Arena)
• Dec. 19 - Orlando, FL (Amway Center)
• Jan. 13 2014 - Edmonton AB (Rexall Place)
• Jan. 17 2014 - Seattle, WA (Key Arena)
• Jan. 22 2014 - Denver, CO (Pepsi Center)
• Feb. 7 2014 - Fargo, ND ( Fargodome)
• Deb. 9 2014 - St. Paul, MN (Xcel Energy Center)
• Feb. 10 2014 - Omaha, NE (CenturyLink Center)

USE "I" INSTEAD OF "YOU"

For the Women:

You're told that, when expressing anger/sadness/disappointment to your partner, you should say, "I feel this way" rather than "You make me feel this way." But most intelligengt men are onto this by now, and just feel like you're patronizing them. Men can take the heat: just tell them, "You messed up. Here's how you can fix it." Your emotions can be intimidating to them. But talking about their actions and how they can fix things - that's something they can understand.

DON'T GO TO BED ANGRY

For Both Men and Women:

Anybody who says they never go to bed angry quickly wraps up their arguments with half-hearted conclusions, that actually fix nothing, and they end up fighting about the same thing the next night. Your arguments and issues don't care that you need to go to sleep in 90 minutes. Some problems take hours or days to resolve - rushing the resolution for the sake of some shuteye rarely lends itself to well thought out, sustainable solutions.

BE AN ENDLESS SOURCE OF SUPPORT TO YOUR PARTNER

For Both Men and Women:

Of course you should be supporting your partner in his endeavors by being emotionally supportive, available for discussions, and physically present at things that matter to him. However, if you're always sacrificing what you want/need to do in order to be a support to your partner, that's not a balanced relationship. You need to work on your career/spend time with your friends/have alone time so that you can have the energy to be a real, energized support system to your partner. It's okay to say no sometimes to attending an office party/conference/football game etc.

ALWAYS SAY WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND

For the Women:

We have a million thoughts run through our minds every day. But the truth is, not all of these thoughts are in line with our long-term goals and desires. Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings to yourself, but be smart about those that you share verbally. For example, have you been thinking a lot about an ex recently? That's okay. Do you want to get back with that ex? Do you want to break up with your current guy? No? Well then expressing those thoughts is not in service of your long time goals or desires. You're having a weird bout of thinking about an ex. So what? Your partner does not need to know.

"LOVE MEANS NEVER HAVING TO SAY YOU'RE SORRY"

For the Men:

In an ideal world, anytime you slip up in your words, your partner completely understands where you're coming from, what you meant to say, and all the inner workings of your brain that led you to the mishap. But your partner is not in your brain. And that doesn't mean you're not compatible, or that your partner doesn't know you. People just can't be expected to read your mind, when you're being - well - a jerk. Even if you didn't mean to do something wrong, even if you think your partner's feelings are unreasonable, saying you're sorry means simply that you care that your partner has been hurt. Apologies aren't always about being reasonable - they're about showing compassion.

BE WITH THE MAN WHO'LL LOVE YOU AT YOUR UGLIEST

For the Women:

We agree with this rule, but we don't think you should push it. Some women go on first dates with no makeup on and bland clothes just to test the level of superficiality of their date. But the truth is physical attraction is the gateway to emotional attraction. Most people cannot take the interest to love you on the inside if they're just not feeling what's happening on the outside. And come on: is it really all that bad if a guy thinks you're a brick house?

WAIT X AMOUNT OF TIME TO HAVE SEX

For the Women:

Look: if having sex was going to make a guy no longer like you, then that's all he ever wanted in the first place. Men aren't idiots: if a guy can tell you're an honest, interesting woman of substance, he's not going to forget all that just because you sleep with him. If a guy likes you, he likes you. Men do not judge women for sleeping with them nearly as harshly as women judge themselves. I'm not saying jump into bed with every guy you have a good first date with. But don't subscribe to odd and strict time frames like X amount of dates or 3 months.

DON'T DATE THE LAST "TYPE"

For the Women:

There is something to typecasting, but most apply that word to the wrong set of traits. It's fine to look for a guy who is generous, thoughtful, ambitious and social because the last guy was none of those things. But don't look for a guy who absolutely doesn't work in finance, because the last guy did. There are all sorts of types of character traits underneath those superficial "types" your friends refer to. Give everyone who seems good a chance, regardless of their appearance/profession/hobbies and so on.

WAIT X AMOUNT OF TIME TO CALL/TEXT/HANG OUT AGAIN

For Men and Women:

If a guy/girl likes you, and then suddenly decides he/she doesn't, all because you called him/her the day after a date, he/she never really liked you. If you and a guy/girl have a good chemistry going and genuinely are excited to talk or see each other soon after having done so, go for it! Any guy/guy who subscribes to the wait X amount of time rule is either afraid of commitment, or not that into you, and neither of those are good. A guy/girl who really likes you and is ready to explore something won't be afraid of a "premature" text or request to hang.

IF YOU WANT TO FIND LOVE, STOP LOOKING FOR IT

For both Men and Women:

There is some truth to this in the sense that, no matter what, you should continue pursuing your career, partaking in your hobbies and leading an active, happy social life - these shouldn't be put aside so you can start a 24/7 search for love. However, some people take this rule too far, and avoid anything that is blatantly in the search for love, like speed dating, online dating, blind dates, singles bars and so on. You should be open to meeting someone, and putting yourself in situations where that can happen.

DON'T DATE OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE

For both Men and Women:

We just don't like the term "league" at all. Nobody is better or worse: people are just different. Some people perceive there is a league above their own, and that's just because they consistently go after a type that is very different from themselves - a type that is not compatible with them - and the rejection begins to feel like rejection from some "league." If you're constantly trying to date super athletic/health fanatic guys, and yet you yourself would rather relax on the couch on a Saturday, and do enjoy a cocktail or two each night, as each of these men realize you're not compatible and leave you, you'll feel you weren't good enough for them. But no, you just failed to accept your differences. Translation: know what works for you and not just what seems good.

NEVER DATE SOMEONE WHO'S BEEN SINGLE LESS THAN X AMOUNT OF TIME

For both Men and Women:

You can detect when someone is an emotionally sound, whole and happy person. And some people are, even if they're only a month out of a relationship. Not every breakup leaves a person devastated, incomplete, confused and weak. Some breakups are amicable. Some people do emotionally check out of relationships long before they end. Don't write a guy off who you have amazing chemistry and compatibility with, all because he just broke up with his girlfriend a month ago.

WAIT TO INTRODUCE A GUY TO YOUR FRIENDS

For Women:

This is one of the least sensible rules around. You learn so much valuable information about a guy from seeing how he interacts A) In social settings and B) Around people who are important to you and contain character traits you enjoy. Inviting a new guy to a friend's party doesn't mean you want to marry him! But imagine if the two of you had a great few months together in private, and then you took him around your friends only to realize they bump heads horribly? Game over. Find out sooner rather than later how a guy melds with your world.

"""""Hello, this is like, totally embarassing for me, but I have a really hard time reaching orgasm. I don't get an orgasm from sex, I have to stimulate myself! My boyfriend feels like a "lesser man" because he can't give me an one. I am actually kind of ashamed, cuz maybe something's wrong with me. I really have no idea. I know this bothers him and I don't want to end up losing him because he feels like he doesn't please me. I really want to know if your audience thinks it would good if I sort of fake from time to time.  Like what if he's really able to tell? I just want to know what men and women think. I'm stuck at what to do here and it's too much for him to talk with me about it, because I know he feels embarrassed as a guy.

Thanx a bunch, and please keep my nama private.""""""

AHHHHHHIGHT LADIES? How many of you fake it to please your mate? Do you think your guy can tell if you do? Do you do it to end bad sex? Lastly, do you think more woman fake orgasms with men, than those who actually have them with a male partner? My fellas, chime in too. #GoIn

Teeth and Grammar Are Top Dating "Must-Haves"

Men and women disagree on many things when it comes to dating, but according to a recent survey conducted by MarketTools Inc. for Match.com, the sexes agree that teeth and grammar are the two most important "must-haves" when dating.

1 in 4 Men Have Faked an Orgasm

In a sweeping new study conducted by DatingAdvice.com, 22 percent of U.S. males said they have faked an orgasm. Males in the 25 to 34 age range were nearly three times more likely to have faked an orgasm than those aged 18 to 24.

Men Are As Likely As Women To Want Children

A new research study by Robin Hadley of Keele University suggests men are almost as likely as women to want children, and they feel more isolated, depressed, angry and sad than women if they don't have them.

People Who Believe TV Romances Are Less Likely to Commit

This recent study, which was published in Mass Communication and Society, found that the more an individual believes TV portrayals of romance, the less likely they are to be committed to their relationships. Source: Albion.edu and DatingAdvice.com.

Women With High Sex Drives Are More Selective

This study found women with high sex drives were much more selective about who they'd choose for a short-term relationship than women with low sex drives. By contrast, men with both high and low sex drives preferred attractive women, but those with high sex drives said they would also enter into short-term relationships with less attractive women.

Online Dating Sites Don't Necessarily Help You Find Love

Researchers of this study note several online dating sites offer matching algorithms to help pair compatible individuals, but found little evidence to suggest matching algorithms actually predict compatibility. Source: SagePub.com and DatingAdvice.com.

Forty Percent of Women Have Experienced Exercise-Related Orgasms

Most women's sexual pleasure, and nearly half of all gym-related orgasms, came from core-based exercises. (Especially those related to suspended leg lifts.) The vast majority of exercise-related orgasms came without the woman fantasizing while she worked out. Some women reported feeling embarrassed when they went to the gym due to the sexual pleasure they felt when working out. Source: LiveScience.com and DatingAdvice.com.

Men Are More Likely to Be Attracted to Unavailable Friends

Looking at the data, researchers found men (especially young men) are more likely to be attracted to their female friends, regardless of whether one or both of them are in a romantic relationship. Conversely, women in existing romantic relationships are less likely to find their male friends attractive. Source: Bleske-recheck.com and DatingAdvice.com.

Women Who Have Sex Early Are More Likely to Be Dissatisfied Later

This fascinating study found that women who entered into sexual relationships with their current partners quickly reported significantly lower levels of relationship satisfaction than those who waited somewhat longer before becoming sexually involved. Source: PHYS.org. and DatingAdvice.com.

A Man's Gaze Determines How Sexually Adventurous He Is

Researcher Ken Guo, a psychologist at the University of Lincoln in the United Kingdom found men who were sexually uninhibited spent more time looking at the breasts and hips of the young women in the pictures than men who were more sexually inhibited, indicating you can determine, to a certain degree, how sexually adventurous a man is by how long he holds his gaze on a woman's midsection. Source: Live Science and DatingAdvice.com.

Thirty Seven Percent of Men Think Women with Similar Faces are More Attractive

In this study, men were shown a selection of four photographs of new women, which included photos of women whose faces had been digitally manipulated to look more like the participating males. Thirty seven percent of the males rated the face looking the most like their own as the most attractive. The findings of this study correspond with the findings of similar studies, including a 2008 study determining men were likely to find a woman attractive if that woman resembled his mother and women were likely to find a man attractive if he resembled her father. Source: chacha.com and DatingAdvice.com.

Ahight here we go, last one for the week. It's not a letter from a listener, but it's a comment I came across on a website that was speaking on this Jason Collins story that's been in the news too much this week. Ahight, dude came out, said he was gay. He's a NBA player, and Black, So it's extra in the news, because he was the first dude to come out in the sport of basketball. Dude was engaged to a female and had been in a relationship and she had no clue he was doing dudes. Yeah, that shit's messed up! However, that situation led to some comments from some ladies who followed this story. Which one comment is going to lead to my question to you ladies. Check em out below:

McGrady on Bossip.com writes: "Im sure the signs were there... but all she saw was dollar signs. She needs to go get checked for HIV immediately!!"

The guest on Bossip.com writes: "I wouldn't want to see anybody hurt like this. 8 years of this woman's life. Using up her child bearing years. These are crazy times. What is going on in today's world with men?"

Kellie on Bossip.com writes: "Yes I hate that this happened to ANY woman but darn glad it didn't happen to a Black woman. Black women go through far too much now. The worst thing about being a Black woman is Black men.

Ok, the 1st two comments, I can understand, but the 3rd is disheartening as hell. """""The worst thing about being a Black woman is Black men.""" So my question is, do you feel that the Black relationship, Black Love, and family has no hope? Do you agree with her, the worst thing about being a Black woman is being in a relationship with a Black man?
#GoIn

 Lawyers report that more and more couples are signing relationship contracts detailing how often they will have sex. These "lifestyle clauses" are utilized by married and unmarried couples and can include how often the couple is intimate, how they spend their leisure time, and how cheating is defined. One sex therapist and marriage counselor says these contracts could be beneficial, saying, "I have found there can be a lot of joy in having structure and knowing what's going to happen." Other experts say the conracts may serve as a symbolic link in couples that are not married. One lawyer doesn't think these lifestyle clauses are always good, saying "They undermine a marriage rather than support it." (Daily Mail)